
The idea of “masculine energy” comes from our historic, cultural associations of males with: strength, action, structure, protection, and logic. These are not absolute truths but patterns we've noticed over time. With that being said, we should always remember that these ideas are loose, not strict. Regardless, the frameworks of feminine and masculine can be incredibly helpful as we explore ourselves more deeply and strive for balance and equality in this lifetime.
Culturally, we see a lot of wounded masculine energy. Traits like domination, over-competitiveness, and disconnection from vulnerability have often been celebrated while leaving behind balance, compassion, and emotional depth. It is also easy for the masculine to become understated, and the individual becomes indecisive, easy to manipulate, and self-doubting.
These imbalances ripple through our personal lives as well. Maybe you’ve felt stuck in patterns of overworking, feeling pressured to keep up or assert dominance, or struggling to feel your own emotions, let alone communicate them. Maybe it's on the other side - you struggle with being direct, feeling confident, and making decisions.
Balancing the masculine requires both a behavioral shift and mindset shift; it’s about understanding that vulnerability and emotional connection are strengths, not weaknesses, and also that strength and directness don't have to be overpowering. It’s about reclaiming the kind of qualities that allows the feminine to be liberated. When the masculine is balanced, it works in harmony with the nurturing, receptive “feminine” energy, creating wholeness and flow in our lives. Imagine how rhythm gives an anchor to a melody.
Balanced masculine energy is irresistibly attractive because it combines confidence with integrity. It doesn’t mean giving up your edge or baddie energy if that’s part of who you are—it simply means channeling it responsibly. You don’t abuse your power, manipulate, or take advantage of anyone. Instead, your masculine expresses in its true forms of strength, magnetism, and intrigue.
Reiki, a form of energy healing, can play a beautiful role in this process. In a session at Somatique in Boulder, CO, we create a non-judgmental space that allows us to begin to balance and/or embody your masculine. Through this process, you can catalyze change through intention, start to recognize the patterns that are limiting you, and create a path forward that integrates masculine and feminine qualities.
Healing the masculine within yourself doesn’t just change your life—it influences the world around you. When you embody balanced masculine energy, you set an example to others to do the same. You contribute to a culture where strength is gentle, action is purposeful, and connecting with others unfolds with fairness and balance.
Balancing the Masculine:
Become Vulnerable with Yourself
Spend quiet time reflecting on what you might be harboring. Are there emotions or truths you’ve been avoiding? Write them down, speak them aloud, or explore them through movement. Practice creating safe space within yourself, before asking for it from others.
Ask Questions Before Offering Answers
The next time you’re in a conversation, pause your instinct to share your perspective. Instead, ask the other person what they think or feel. This cultivates curiosity, deepens connection, and shifts the focus from control to collaboration.
Allow Yourself to Be in Process
In moments of conflict, resist the urge to immediately seek a solution or closure. Instead, explain how you feel in the moment without trying to fix or resolve it. Expressing that you’re “in process” helps balance strength with openness, allowing space for growth and understanding.
Embodying the Masculine: 1. Know Yourself:
Make a list of your values - as long a list as you can. This is a way of solidifying your self-knowledge, creating an inner knowing
2. Value Yourself
Send yourself messages inwardly daily, perhaps writing down on paper to affirm your strengths and your intrinsic worth. With how much the culture tends to erode our self-confidence, it takes a lot of work to maintain that sense of self esteem.
Practice speaking slowly and clearly:
Spend a whole day being mindful of how you speak. Practice being clear, direct, and taking your time to express yourself. Notice if someone else's words or energy start to pull you from that awareness. Remember that your confidence is not relative to anyone else - it stands on its own.
Healing the masculine on the cultural level is a collective process, and every step you take creates ripples. If you’re curious about exploring this in a deeper way, Reiki energy healing at Somatique in Boulder, CO, can provide the space and support to help you realign and embody the strength, clarity, and compassion of the higher masculine.