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Satisfaction vs. Fulfillment and The Project of Meaning

Writer's picture: SaraSara

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In our fast-paced, task-driven lives, satisfaction brings immense gratification. Completing a task, achieving a milestone, making the lawn perfect can bring a rush of accomplishment. It’s tangible and immediate, and often tied to external validation or comparisons. Satisfaction IS important in our daily lives, and there is nothing wrong with it. Unless it is paired with an absence of meaning. When the next task, the next pat on the back, the next compliment on the yard becomes our sustenance, what do we lose? The problem with satisfaction is that it is so good at its job. It makes us feel complete! For the moment at least. Fulfillment, by contrast, can be very subtle and slow-moving. But it has something that satisfaction simply does not - access to our soul. It reaches into the heart of who we are, connecting us to our purpose, what we love, and what is deeply important to us. It’s not transactional or fleeting; it doesn’t rely on a checklist. Fulfillment creates meaning that grows roots across your life, tying into other parts. It brings a sense of self and wholeness that transcends momentary accomplishments. It begs different questions: "Does this align with what truly matters to me?" "Am I living a life that feels deeply right?"

Moments of quiet and reflection can help clarify the presence (or lack thereof) of fulfillment in our lives. While the details of the everyday can make our to-do's feel like the most important thing (and perhaps in that moment, they are), moments of true fulfillment open a much broader perspective and understanding of our lives. When I find myself walking alone through a forest, and it's so quiet that I can hear the thrum of a bird's wings, or when someone tells me I completely turned their day around, I realize: “Oh yes, this is what I’m really here for.” Laughing with friends until your sides ache or being possessed while in a creative flow—these are the moments where fulfillment makes its claim, “This is enough.”

But when we’re caught in a pattern of chasing satisfaction, we risk forgetting these moments altogether. We lose touch with the spaciousness of being and the joy of living authentically. Instead, we become tethered to tasks and comparisons, driven by a hunger that satisfaction alone can never satiate.

This is where it gets really fun and personal. What brings fulfillment is different for everyone. While for me it might be hiking in the mountains or growing seeds from lavender, for someone else it might be skiing, time with children, reading fantasy, building a bookshelf, going to a concert - you get the idea. But beyond the deep inspirations and love we hold for our unique interests, helping people, plants, and animals seems to be a common and important thread for fulfillment. The things that fulfill us ultimately do something that the things that satisfy us can't - bring meaning. Satisfaction brings important stepping stones of progress and achievement, but at the end of the day, those alone do not bring meaning. The beauty of meaning is that it has so many layers and levels. We can access meaning instantaneously through mindfulness, and meaning can also take shape in unexpected ways over decades. The key is to stay engaged with what is truly important to us. While society has priorities on financial success and social status, the reclamation is to turn to the project of meaning. True meaning. Such that when we leave this life, we are in awe of the depth of it all, and we do not look back with regret at missing the opportunity to discover fulfillment all along the way. At its core, meaning arises when our actions, connections, and choices resonate with a deeper sense of purpose and truth.

Connection

At the heart of meaning lies connection—connection to ourselves, others, and the world around us. It’s found in the relationships we cultivate, the love we share, and the impact we have on those we encounter. When we feel truly seen and valued, and when we offer the same to others, life feels rich with significance. These connections remind us that we’re part of something greater than ourselves.

Contribution

Meaning also comes from contributing to something larger than our individual desires. Whether it’s through our work, creativity, or acts of kindness, we find purpose when we feel we’re making a difference. Contribution doesn’t have to be grand—it could be as simple as helping a friend, planting a tree, or sharing a story. It’s about recognizing that our presence has value and that we’re capable of leaving the world a little brighter.

Authenticity

Living authentically—aligned with our values, passions, and truth—creates profound meaning. When our actions reflect who we are at our core, life feels purposeful. Meaning is lost when we conform to external expectations, chasing accomplishments that don’t truly resonate. It’s only by honoring our inner compass that we find a path that feels right.

Presence

Moments of presence are often where meaning is most vivid. Walking through a forest, marveling at its quiet beauty. Sitting in stillness, hearing the soft hum of the world. Laughing with friends, feeling utterly alive. These moments remind us of the sacredness of being here, now, and reconnect us to what really matters.

Story

We also create meaning through the stories we tell ourselves and others. How we interpret our experiences—whether as challenges that shaped us, lessons that taught us, or moments that opened our hearts—defines the narrative of our lives. Storytelling isn’t just a reflection of meaning; it’s a way of weaving meaning into existence. I would say that one of the greatest opportunities Reiki presents is that it invites us to step off the hamster wheel for a moment. It’s a practice that clears the energetic clutter, reconnecting us with what truly matters. By aligning our energy and releasing blocks, Reiki helps us tune in and find out if we are feeling aligned in our lives. And often, when we're not, the process generates insights that can bring us back to what's most important. It allows us to pause, breathe, and listen to the quiet voice of our soul saying, “This is your path.”

Through Reiki, we can shift from seeking fleeting moments of satisfaction to cultivating a life rich with meaning and purpose. Because while satisfaction might feel like checking off a box, fulfillment feels like coming home—to ourselves, to our purpose, to the heart of life itself.


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It's an honor to support the journey of meaning through Reiki right here in Boulder, CO. If you'd like to work together, I am here to help evoke your insights into this deeper layer of your life.

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